Wednesday, September 5, 2012

Are We Better Off Now Than We Were Four Years Ago?


What a great question I have heard over the last few days….. “Are we better off now than we were four years ago?”  Of course, I first heard this while watching the preparation for the Democratic National Convention over the Labor Day Weekend and found myself pondering on this very question…. Not in how it relates to the sky high unemployment rate that has indeed inflated since 2008… not in how the median income has decreased in the neighborhood of $5000/yr ….not in how healthcare has been reformed……not in how General Motors has survived…… not in how gas prices have soared to date…… not in how the national debt has exceeded $16 trillion and climbing but in why I am sitting in front of my TV, doing the same thing I was doing four years ago…. watching the convention …watching all those dollars fund the venue for political blasts while American families struggle to pay their bills, go hungry, drown in a sea of hopelessness……….….Sadly,  I found myself disappointed in me.  Why was I supporting the primary cause for the problems we are experiencing in the nation.............all that wastefulness ………….all those dollars spent doing the same thing we did four years ago…. The same thing we did eight years ago….. all those hundreds of millions of dollars spent….for what?? 

We have the Democrats saying they can do it better than the Republicans and vice versa.  We have all the past action or lack thereof being placed at the forefront ….. being dissected from every angle imaginable only to tell us one thing really…. We are exactly where we were four years ago.  We are supporting and encouraging what we know is the issue…… hundreds of millions of dollars doing what we did four years ago…. Supporting the election cycle, driving home the one man who can change the nation if elected.

I am not a political guru. I don’t understand why we spend so many dollars rebuilding countries that have attacked us.  I don’t understand why we pay minimum wage or less in service industry situations at times when no one can make it on a minimum wage (or less even!) income these days.  I don’t understand why education is so critical to our future but we invest so little in the ones who teach our children.  I don’t understand why my son served in Afghanistan and had so little to eat when we feed other countries in vast numbers.  I don’t understand why we are so dependent on the resources of other countries instead of growing our own resources here in America. 

I am a single Caucasian woman…. A mother of two….a woman who has worked hard all her life…..aspiring toward the American Dream (Ah…. Remember what that is?!) …. One that has endured hardships that have forced growth and internal strength ….one that has tasted the sweetness of success….one that has been jolted with a downward economy and a decrease in income…………. Just the average middle class American.  I am a military mother, a grandmother…. a woman with conviction…. a woman with a voice.

Do we really think one man can fix all the problems we have created as a nation over the last many more than four years?  Personally, I believe it’s going to take much much more to rise above the chaos we have created.  It’s going to take a leader and many many followers to stand strong in the discipline of what needs to happen in order for us to gain momentum and start moving in the right direction.  With every great reward, there is great sacrifice.  And, it will take someone strong and courageous to lead this country to a better economic state.  I believe it will take someone who is in it to win it no matter if he is reelected in four years or not…………someone who can look the American people in the eye and say “This is what we have to do to get to a better place and do it!”     

We need someone who can set the stage, walk the walk….leading the people by example….saying NO to the thought of more debt…. Saying NO to excess spending!!!   We need someone who can prioritize all the challenges we face.  After all, what is the number one concern in the US….?  My guess although I certainly can’t speak for others is financial despair.  Why not focus on recovery and STOP spending? I wonder what all those hundreds of millions of dollars could be used for if we did not use them to fund the election cycle.  I wonder how a man going into a community stricken with ongoing unemployment putting some dollars to good use would be perceived in comparison to one who stands proudly in front of the nation speaking of how great things will be with him at the lead.  I wonder….. Do actions speak louder than words?  

You know, one of my favorite pastimes is to watch reruns of Little House on the Prairie…..why?  Because it takes me to that place I long for…. One of peacefulness, good will, brotherly love, hard work, determination….the simple life and a real chance to be all that I can be.  I wonder what would happen if everyone pulled together and just say NO MORE of THIS!!  We want more for our children.  We need to stop spending money we do not have. We need to stop giving away money we do not have.  We need to work together and be the change we want to see in our country.  With that, we need to stop doing what we were doing four years ago.   We need to be better!  We need to do better!  We need to expect more!  We need to encourage and to be encouraged.  We need to stop feeling sorry for ourselves and get busy doing what needs to be done.  One man cannot do it for us!  

My expertise lies in process improvements and streamlining and the one thing that must happen first with any change is to peel back the layers and get to the root problem.  One man cannot fix the problem but the right man can lead the people to the fix.  My vote is for the people….. the American people.  Let’s take personal responsibility for our lives.  Let’s help our neighbors whenever we can.  Let’s stop unnecessary spending.  Let’s work harder than we ever have before.  Let’s feed our Congressmen and women with ammunition to get laws passed to promote a healthy and stable way of life! Let’s be one voice together …………. stronger than ever………….. We have a lot of work to do.  Let’s get busy and do it and see how much better off we are four years from now.    

Tuesday, March 20, 2012

Time to Wake Up!

Although somewhat asleep in the day to day operations of life over the last three months past, spring awakens my spirit and once again I find myself right back where I belong......  

I find it quite amazing really .... sometimes getting lost in a world of to dos and yet, the path always brings me back here….to this... my writing....

Today I welcome my favorite season.... the blessed spring time!  I love to watch nature awake and show us all her beauty.  I love to watch the flowers peep as they arise to this glorious occasion..... the deadness of winter be gone and the sunshine deliver us from the winter foes we faced ... offering great energy and rebound to our hibernation………….. time to push forward and breathe in the delight of this day!

Today's the Day!  Time to Wake Up! 

Monday, December 26, 2011

This is Love.....

The holidays have come and gone and left me in marvel of how precious love is.  It is the most incredible gift.  A little child sitting in my lap, looking up at me, smiling..... giving me a sweet kiss on the cheek with no words... this is love.   A little baby putting his hands in the air and smiling as if he owns the whole wide world........ this is love.  A young man somewhat lost and saddened at this time of the year because life threw him a few curve balls and he has to regroup yet he still wants to share in the Christmas story with his mom on Christmas Eve...this is love.  A young woman who gave up her whole life to have a son that lights up her world ........ this is love.  A mother and father who not only pray for their family but also for those they don't even know during their Christmas celebration.... this is love.  A man who lost himself in a world of material riches only to find the most precious things in life are not things ..... they are people....family.....this is love.  A man....A GOD.... who gave his only son so that we might experience all these things......this is love........

May we always remember the true meaning of the most precious gift ........ love......

Saturday, November 19, 2011

Let's Give Thanks Together....

As we approach Thanksgiving, I would love to give thanks with you.... my family....my friends... my readers....  join me here and let the whole world know what you are thankful for today and every day. 

I would be honored to start our Thanksgiving thread ........

I am so very thankful for my God....the one and only reason I am here sharing thoughts with you today.  I am thankful for my health so that I can be the best I can be in service for others.  I am so very thankful for all the love in my life.  It makes me the richest woman alive......allowing me all the wonderful joy and light anyone could ever ask for.  I am thankful for all the wonderful opportunities I have been given.  With them, I have been blessed with learning and growth....

Awwwww…… I could go on and on..........  BUT, it's your turn!!!!! 

Who's next...... come on... don't be shy...  :-)  

Wednesday, November 16, 2011

The Journey..... (conclusion.....or just the beginning...... )

When we stop fighting with our inner voice and start speaking it........ when we stop talking so much and  begin to really listen and hear ..... when we let go of the things that hold us back instead of hanging on to what hinders our journey and when we accept the path that is laid out before us instead of challenging it ........... that feeling comes.... that peace... that comfort... that moment in time when we just know...... really KNOW that we are right where we belong.....
With this new and exciting way of thinking, I became rich in diversity, the ability to be everything I want to be................ not limiting myself to the restrictions and ideas of others as to what I should and shouldn’t be………….   It’s not about being different … it’s about just being who I am.  I am like no other.  I am unique.  I cannot lose myself to those who try to mold me.  Being strong in that brings me here…….
Hello World! My name is Mary Elizabeth and I am a real woman living in the real world!  I am diverse, intelligent, confident, educated, creative and independent!  I am also absolutely in love with life! I am so very grateful for all the wonderful things I have been blessed with and I appreciate all the challenges I have faced that gave me strength and determination to be here writing this for you today!  I am good enough!  I am strong enough! I am a writer … a builder of stories that I hope will inspire my readers!  I am happy!! And……most of all…….I am aspiring to be the greatest person I can be……….by just being ME!   Join me!! It’s absolutely incredible!!!

Tuesday, November 15, 2011

The Journey... (more)

When I began cleaning out my closet, I learned that my time is precious. Every moment matters and it’s up to me to decide how to use my moments.  We only get them once…….
I’ve been told by many people that I am so “full of life”……………..I guess that’s because I made room!  Making room involves a lot of hard decisions….
One of the first decisions I had to make was to get rid of the negative energy in my life!  I had to enhance my life with uplifting and positive influence and with that, I had to determine what in my life I was allowing to steal my sunshine!….. what was I enabling?  First I had to own it and then I had to act!
I decided to surround myself with uplifting and positive influence……people who encouraged my dreams and supported my ambitions! It was up to me to protect my space! When people approached me with negativity, it was up to me to say “STOP! This is my life and I need to do what is right for ME!”   
This new way of thinking allowed me to bring back memories of all the poems I had written over 25 years ago…..when I didn’t let people take the ME out of who I was.  I pulled out those poems, those saved pieces of me and I started reading all about what I saw and how I felt all those years ago.....
Little did I know that day,  I would be here with you unraveling the intricacies of timing, purpose, passion, conviction and just listening to that inner voice  guiding me to the place where I find the most peace and comfort ………where things feel so right………… right where I belong….. writing, sharing….just being me….

Monday, November 14, 2011

The Journey... (cont.)

And, then…one day, I just woke up!  I realized I was the culprit!  I was allowing all the ideals of other people to control ME.   After being so unfulfilled for so long, I finally decided there was no way for me to find true peace and happiness unless I found myself again…the real ME.  I needed to find that little girl who longed to write…. to share stories with the world…. to help people…. that’s who I was and that’s who I am.     
After years of being polluted, I STOPPED and looked at myself for the first time in a long time!  I took the time to figure out what I needed to do in order to be happy and to live my life to the fullest…… yes! My life!
Have you ever looked in the mirror and “owned” what you saw!  By that, I mean, have you ever taken the time to STOP and take a close look at who you are and if the person you see in the mirror is the person you want to be?  Well, that’s what I did.  And, WOW!  How eye opening it is when you really see the reflection.  It’s hard and it’s raw……….. and,  it was just what I needed to get back to me!!
I realized that I was a person who spent way too many moments trying to live up to the expectations of everyone else….having very little regard for my own personal goals. I felt programmed into believing I had to be a “certain” way in order to be the person I was destined to be.  Have you ever felt that way??  I know, now,  in order for me to be the best mom, the best partner, the best friend and the best employee, I must be the best ME….. and,  unless I am true to that philosophy, there is no way for me to reach my potential happiness and fulfillment in this life….my life......

Sunday, November 13, 2011

The Journey.... (cont)

I don’t remember the day it happened but I do know that, out of the blue, before I knew it, along came life……… the real world……….a world of social stigmas…… cynicism…. people trying to tell me I wasn’t good enough, my dreams were out of reach……..transforming me……making me think we can only be great if we follow suit……hiding ourselves….. losing ourselves to what others believe to be great! 
For years, I doubted myself, my appearance, my strengths and the way I felt about life in general..............I made it all about other people and what other people dictated in regard to what I should and shouldn’t do in and with my life.  I felt like I had to follow the lead of others who knew more about me, seemingly, than I knew about myself.  I felt like my ideas ….my BIG dreams, were considered a waste of time and there was no need to even think about pursuing them.  After all, I would only fail and look like a fool to all those people who loved me so much and were only trying to help me.  After a while, I was so lost and fearful to go against this controlled society, I just gave up….went along with it…………..became trapped in a world outside of what I dreamed of for myself.........      

Monday, November 7, 2011

The Journey Back to ME

Aww…..fairytales…. make believe… all the wonderful things we grew up thinking about…. the happily ever after…. dreaming of all the things we wanted to be when we grew up….…playing dress up…. being pretty…. being loved just because we are who we are…hummm………such fantastic sandcastles we built and the grand visions of sugar plums from yester year lingered so softly in our unpolluted minds…………..remember those days....... 

Thursday, November 3, 2011

Approaching Life with Gratitude

I was talking with a good friend yesterday and she spoke of approaching life with gratitude!  This was so inspiring to me and I felt compelled to write about it here today....

Are you dwelling on the things in your life that limit your mind to negative energy.... targeting thoughts of complaint and dread.......despair and pain?  Are you so focused on the things you feel are "bad" that all the good things about your life don't seem to exist?  Are you filling your space with influences that generate these kinds of thoughts and encourage this barrier in your life??

We all get down and out sometimes and we just don't know why so many bad things are happening to us!  When this happens to me, I just think about my health.  I am in good health when so many others are stricken with illness.  I think of my family and friends .......the ones I turn to during the low times in my life.  Some people don't have anyone.  They don't have that support system that we all need for encouragement ....... no one to lean on.  I feel so very lucky and blessed and grateful..........    

I always try to channel my energy toward the light.... the good .  When I do this, the bad things just don't seem so bad.  When we give them the power, they take take control.  When we focus our attention of all the great things in our life, being thankful for those things, the bad things seem to lesson and become much easier to deal with. 

I'm sure you have heard "Don't worry... it's going to be okay!"  Well... guess what!!!  It is!  It is!!  Some how .....some way... it all works out exactly the way it's supposed to!  Negativity doesn't change it!  It makes it worse than it really is.

Approaching life with gratitude reminds us how rich we are in all the good things in life and it strengthens us to get through the things that aren't so good. 

Think about it...........smile and be grateful for all the wonderful things in your life.... and remember "It's going to be okay!!!!" 

Tuesday, November 1, 2011

Time to Share

It’s the first day of November and the holidays are right around the corner!!  Are you getting excited?   Are you planning a Thanksgiving feast in your mind?  Do you have visions of turkey and dressing and stuffing and pie????  

Have you started thinking about how you can help someone during the holiday season? 

There are so many families out there, maybe right next door to you, that have a need.  Times are tough.  The economy is so soft and no relief in sight really.  I wonder what we can do to help.  Do you?

I’ve heard many people speak negatively about the recipients of holiday food donations… you know those can food drives they do during this time of the year?  Some wonder why we would collect food for people we don’t know…. How do we know they aren’t just trying to get a free meal?  It’s a shame really… that we would be compelled to be so skeptical. 

Many years ago, I knew a family that did not have the money for a big Thanksgiving meal. In fact, on many days, this family did not have the money for any kind of a meal.  Without the kindness of strangers bringing in food donations, this family would have had nothing during many holiday seasons.

Think about helping others…………….who knows, you may just help a little girl, longing for a chance to grow up and share stories with you….....

Sunday, October 30, 2011

LIVE!

L - Love with passion and purpose!
I - Invest your soul only in those things that really make a difference!
V - Visit with yourself daily!
E - Envy no one -- celebrate everyone in your life!

Simple concepts.... huge reward!!  Think about it....


 

Saturday, October 29, 2011

Signs

Do you believe in “signs”…..you know, those little things that happen along the way that say “Heyyyy!!! Pay attention!!!!!.......... I mean something!!!”  ??? 

I am beginning to believe in them more and more …… 

Just yesterday, I saw the number “4” in a way that I had never seen it before!   It was the craziest thing….. like it meant so much more than 1, 2 or 3!!  

My daughter is looking for a new place to move to and, out of the blue, this morning,  I passed by a “for rent” sign just where it needed to be………….. in an area that I had never really paid attention to before even as many times as I have driven by it in the past. 

I stayed over at a girlfriend’s house last night and this morning, we looked outside and saw steam coming from the trees around her house!!!   It looked like the trees were on fire................ smoking.   We thought it was the strangest thing and still don’t know exactly what caused it….maybe a shift in temperature ...................but neither of us had ever seen such a thing.......

Very interesting to say the least……I believe signs can guide us to where we are supposed to be...... if we keep our eyes open to them......................…Are you paying attention??

Friday, October 28, 2011

Thinking Ahead ...

I read a quote this morning that really stands out in my mind. 

"Every thought we think is creating our future"  - Louise Hay

If we stop and realize that we are the builders of our future, I believe we can have the future of our dreams.  It will take hard work, determination and drive but it truly starts with a thought...... 

That old interview question  "Where do you see yourself 5 years from now" suddenly makes a lot of sense ................. Think about it........

Wednesday, October 26, 2011

Still giving me priceless gifts…..

Many years ago, when my son was just a little boy, he gave me a gift at Christmas that will always stand out in my mind as a priceless one.  We didn’t have a lot of money and I was very worried about how to even make ends meet at that time in my life. 

He came to me with a box and a smile.  He had found a lot of pictures of himself that we had taken over the years…..memories we’d made……….. and he glued them on the box and made a “picture box” for my Christmas gift.  He said “Mama, we don’t have a lot of money but we have a lot of love.”  This came from a little man that was about 10 years old at the time.  It just melted my heart and I have treasured it and will treasure it always. It was such a BIG gift from such a little boy!!

This morning at 5:21am, I got a call from London.  It was my son, telling me that he’d be at the airport at 2:45pm today!  His tour in Afghanistan is over and he’s coming home.  Again, a moment in time in which I will always treasure from that same, now grown, man…………..one that I adore…. my son!

Thank you Lord for protecting him and bringing him home to me……. for his light and his smile……. I love you Tyler.     

Tuesday, October 25, 2011

The Fall

...... the beauty of this time of the year continues to inspire poetry….....

Fall
Leaves cascading in an autumn breeze
Visible breathe of a child I see
Smoke rising high above the tree tops
Whispering warmth so peacefully
A star hidden far beyond a mist of clouds
Peeping through ever so cleverly
Holiday season is near
Sounds of laughter I hear

-Mary E Dorsett-
Oct 20, 1986

Sunday, October 23, 2011

Chicken Stew for the Young at Heart

I had the best time last night!  My girlfriend invited me to her family’s annual “chicken stew” and I had the pleasure of meeting such a fantastic soul…………….her grandma!    She was 86 years young and such a delight!   

We were chatting about dressing up like 80’s chicks for Halloween and finding a party to go to and we just had to invite her to come along!  She said she’d love to go but she would have to go in a wheel chair because she has a lot of pain to deal with.  We told her we’d love to take her with us ………wheelchair and all!!!!    We all laughed and had such a great time!!

She was such a vibrant lady….  even with a frail body, she was so full of life and spunk!  Her energy was magnetic in the room! 

You know, I thought about her a lot today and was quite inspired….. just thinking about how some people lose that zest for life that she exhibited so well last night ….. and although she was aged in body… her soul was so well defined with youthful vitality….  What a true blessing it was to meet her.

As I was leaving, I gave her a hug and told her she should come along and dance with us..... She would surely be the belle of the ball……………..

Years may age us but our spirit defines us in age……. and I have decided... if I ever have to grow up... I want to be just like her!!!!!    

Saturday, October 22, 2011

Are you searching for what you already have?

I had the privilege of going to a praise concert this past week and the lead singer spoke of something that inspired my writing today……   

She spoke of how we spend so much time trying to find love in other things; we lose sight of all the love that is right in front of us. 

Are you spending the time to nurture and develop the relationships in your life that really matter?  Are you listening to those people around you….. the ones who need you? Need your attention? Your guidance?  Your love? 

Are you reaching for more when all you need is already there?  I believe that old saying is so true…… “the grass isn’t always greener on the other side”………….. when we throw a bit of fertilizer to what we have…… we will be amazed at the growth….the beauty… the love…..

I truly believe we should appreciate what we have….. family, friends…..all the things that nurture us…. make us happy…. support us…………… encourage us…. challenge us……make us really feel something good and positive…….  The most important things in our lives are the things that we should protect… nurture….be strong in…. love…..    

Things die when there is no love and attention….no food and water…..no sunshine….   Are you taking care of the important things in your life or are you spending all that energy on searching for what may be dying in front of you……………….  think about it……


Wednesday, October 19, 2011

Preparing.......

When I was 12 years old, I fell in love with writing.  I also fell in love with people from all over the world.  Remember the days of “pen to paper?” Well…..  I had over 100 pen pals when I was 12 years old…. I had friends all over the world…..long before my space and face book.  It was so exciting and fulfilling... wrapped around so many stories about far away lands ...culture and diversity.

I look back on that now and know that this creative way of dealing with an alcoholic and abusive father was not only my escape….it was my resolve!   Of all the things I could have done to deal with such a trying situation as a youngster, I found my true passion and for that I am forever thankful. 

Little did I know that one day I would be here with you unraveling the intricacies of timing, purpose, passion, conviction and just listening to that inner voice  guiding me to the place where I find the most peace and comfort ………where things feel so right………… right where I belong…..   




Tuesday, October 18, 2011

Right Where YOU Belong

Have you ever wondered why sometimes things just feel so "right"...... you know, like you are in the right time....the right place....the right setting.... surrounding yourself with the right people????  Have you ever wondered why you have those "moments" in time that are so defining..... those peaceful comfortable moments in which you just KNOW you are finally exactly where you are supposed to be????

When we stop fighting with our inner voice and start speaking it........ when we stop talking so much and  begin to really listen and hear ..... when we let go of the things that hold us back instead of hanging on to what hinders our journey and when we accept the path that is laid out before us instead of challenging it ........... that feeling comes.... that peace... that comfort... that moment in time when we just know...... 

Awwww... what an incredible moment in time when you just KNOW ................ you really KNOW that you are right where you belong.....